The Happy Hour Section of D.I.V.A Polish offers you suggestions on how to become more well-rounded so that you are able to represent yourself well around others. There’s nothing worse than a woman who sounds stupid when she speaks…ugh! You have to broaden your horizons by exposing yourself to new things so you’ll have a killer conversation during happy hour, cocktail parties, or any other situation inwhich you may find yourself. This week, we’ll discuss the benefits of expanding your musical tastes.

I pride myself on being able to talk to almost anyone on the planet (given an interpreter) because I’m constantly learning about things that will make me more knowledgeable. I don’t like not knowing what I’m talking about because the words that come out of my mouth are a reflection of who I am. I try to learn a little bit about everything because I’ll never know when I have to draw upon something to break the ice or find a common interest with someone. This skill is extremely important for networking. People will be so impressed that you are so cultured and well rounded. While on a cruise in Mexico, I realized the important bond music can create.

For those who know me, it’s no surprise that I auditioned for the cruiseships’ Karaoke contest. I sang Aretha Franklin’s “R-E-S-P-E-C-T!.” The winner of the auditions sang in the grande finale show at the end of the cruise. While auditioning, I couldn’t help notice all the white men who wanted to sing a Garth Brooks song “Friends in Low Places.” Prior to these auditions, I never heard of this song and I only heard of Garth Brooks’ name in passing. After hearing the song sang 20 times, I knew the entire song and really liked it. When folks would see me singing along to the song, never missing a word, they would come over to me and strike up an interesting conversation. When I got back from the cruise, I started collecting more Garth Brooks music. I realized that his music, like other country music told stories that I could relate to. I started appreciating that style of music more. I quickly feel in love with Carrie Underwood, too. I love her song “Before He Cheats.” For all you women out there who still believe in slashing your cheating ex’s tires, you’ll love this song. This is the country version of Jazmine Sullivan’s “Bust Your Windows.” LOL!

Why I am sharing this with you? The answer is simple. I can now talk to someone who loves country music and hold an intelligent conversation that could foster a mutually benefical business relationship. I don’t mean any harm, but I guarantee you that if you go out to Karaoke with some white male coworkers, one of them will attempt to sing this song! It’s a very popular Karaoke song. Get the jump on them, request that they sing the song. They will be sooo impressed fellow D.I.V.A! Check out Garth brook’s song “Friends in Low Places.” This isn’t the actual video for the song, I’m not sure if there is a video for it. Just listen to the words. The poor guy shows up at his ex’s wedding in dirty boots with a broken heart. Enjoy!

I like classical music, too. I actually took classical singing lessons at Temple University’s School of Music. My instructor told me that I had talent, but I stopped taking lessons. I’m seriously considering going back because I miss singing in the classical style. I remember the first time I heard a Leontyne Price song. Tears gathered in the wells of my eyes. Her voice touched my soul. If you ever want to hear a true diva, listen to Maria Callas. She was the original diva. But I want to introduce you all to a special classical singer, a friend of mine. Marlissa Hudson is a fabulous soprano and a passionate singer.  In this aria, she is an incredibly innocent, naive young woman named Gilda who is literally consumed with her love for a man. If only she realized he was a philandering woman-eater! How many women can relate to that?!? Check her out at

Finally, I fell in love with Aerosmith’s “I Don’t Want To Miss a Thing.” While I was pregnant, I used to sing this song to KC. Amazingly, he would squirm in my stomach whenever I played this song. I play it for him now every so often. We enjoy it together.

Ladies, think outside the musicbox.
Can you recommend any other great music or singers we can listen to to expand our musical genres?

Be blessed!

Remember, everything has beauty–including YOU. It just takes a true D.I.V.A to see it!

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  1. Mr. White on May 24, 2010 at 5:08 pm

    This is your cousin Mr.White give Mayer Hawthorne a listen.

  2. ShalenaDiva on May 24, 2010 at 7:39 pm

    Torrey, uh…Mr. White–LOL! I will definitely give Mayer Hawthorne a listen. What’s the genre? I forgot to mention that music also bridges the gap between generations. For example, if I want my mother who rarely dances to get up and cut a rug, I need to throw on some Sam Cooke! This wallflower starts bopping and acting like the teenager she used to be. It’s ok to listen to Drake and Nikki Minaj, but kids should familiarize themselves with many genres of music.

  3. Friendly Christian on November 7, 2010 at 10:11 pm

    OK I’m a little late responding to this “Happy Hour” but I was reluctant for one thing I want to be happy for more that an hour and two I had to really think about the array of artist and types of music that I could recommend. I do like Gospel music , not all, but Contemporary Gospel is what I fell in love with over 30 years ago. Amy Grant, Phil Doscol, he plays an instrument, I think it’s a sacks. I love instrumental music of all kinds. Sarah Gordan Powell, Whitney Houston, that’s right she’ll always be one of the best vocalist I can appreciate.Natalie Cole, Tramaine Hawkins was the reason I started listening to Gospel music, becuse I would come home from church and turn on my oldies but goodies. I still like Smokie Robinson, Marvin Gaye, and the rest. How about Barbara Streisand, that woman can sang! Dave Coz, George Benson. There are so many I just appreciate good music. When I had comcast I only got that service because of the benefit of listening to all types of music classical , jazz, etc on various channels. It’s the artist in me I can’t help it. I aborted religion and being religious and embraced relationships with the simple things in life that I enjoy and find God given pleasure in doing so. I recently took some line dance classes, what a work out and my heart was glad. Really ,my heart was glad!
    Friendly Christian

    • ShalenaD.I.V.A on November 8, 2010 at 2:55 am

      It’s so funny that you mention Tremaine Hawkins because I loved listening to her, too when I was a little girl. I will always love Vicki Winans, too. “WE Shall Behold Him” is a classic. Lately, I’ve been listening to southern gospel. I guess it’s like country gospel. And I love it. I have Sirius radio so I flick through channels often and I stumbled across some of the most beautiful harmonies and lyrics. One woman sang: “Lord, wherever you want me to go I’ll go willingly because you can never ask too much of me.” Those lyrics melted my heart because that’s where I am in my walk with God. Now that I know my purpose, I totally embrace it and really want to please the Creator. He’s been so good to me that He can never ask too much of me. I wish I knew the name of these southern gospel artists, but I don’t. I still appreciate the contemporary gospel, but it feels good to hear a variety of music. You’ll never know what you like until you truly hear it and give it a chance.

      Yes,Barbara Streisand is the bomb, too. I love the song Evergreen.

      And Whitney from the 80 and 90’s will always be one of the best singers–HANDS DOWN! What a gift.

      I love music so I have to check out some of your recommendations.

  4. Webb Niemritz Pat via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:34 am

    Gospel, jazz n old school……

  5. Da Real Journalist via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:39 am

    everything, i try to keep my ears open

  6. Karen L. Jasper via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:43 am

    Gospel, Old school, R&B, Some Rap, Country Music!!

  7. Marvin Earvin via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:47 am

    Gospel, all kind of jazz, R&B, Classical, Country, Old School, And World Music.

  8. Peter Adibe via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:48 am

    hiphop..gospel and r&b…theres nothing like music…

  9. Roger Duncan via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:50 am

    Y’all need to get on the reggae train. Nothing like some good old skool reggae..ah suh wi dweet ! Bop..bop..bop..

  10. via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:53 am

    Can y’all drop some names so I can check them out? Does anyone have Pandora on your cell phone? If so, you can listen to everything for free. Give me some names of artists and songs so I can check them out.. Thanks!

  11. via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:54 am

    I was listening to Patsy Cline and Carrie Underwood this morning and I loved it. I love Maria Callas. She sang opera. I love Teddy Pendergrass, the Stylistics, Marvin Gaye, Stevie Wonder. I got turned onto The Who’s Baba Oreilly from the Voice as well as Pink “Perfect” song.

  12. Da Real Journalist via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 9:54 am

    far east movement, bruno mars, chipmunk,

  13. Marvin Earvin via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 10:09 am

    Check out Pat Metheny Last train home, Mickey Hart elephant walk & island groove

  14. Tonya Pile via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 10:15 am

    Gospel,Jazz,Best of the 70’s,80’s,and 90’s,and Reggae

  15. Janice Brown via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    You sound like me. People think I am crazy cause my love for music ranges from…a lil bit of country, to classical, and all that jazz! LOL

  16. Janice Brown via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 12:31 pm

    Love ‘slow dance’ that voice,

    John Legend.

  17. Dorothy Wylie-Johnson via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 12:44 pm

    Gospel, Jazz, Reggae, R&B, Salsa, Oldies, Blues, Country

  18. Christine McCracken Payne via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    Soul, gospel, RnB, HipHop, Old school …

  19. Laticia Ashby-Mcdaniels via Facebook on May 21, 2011 at 5:35 pm

    gospel, r&b, pop, alternative music, soft rock, rock, old school, oldies, some hip hop, country, gospel country, r&b soul.

  20. Music is my refuge ~ and I too, like many of those here, like many different genres. Currently listening to Rebelution (thanks to my daughter) when I’m feeling happy and sunny, Kirk Franklin’s new CD Hello Fear, Patty Griffin (though she always makes me cry) and when I’m feeling determined/sad/angry I’m liking Gary Allen (country…) Oh, and I can always listen to Darius Rucker (old and new!) What’s weird is a year ago I was into New Orleans jazz and blues…

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