Have you ever had a dream or a vision that you once believed in, but after while you let it go? Life happened. Your situation changed and those big ideas and lofty dreams you once flirted with throughout the day got lost somewhere in between working, being a parent, and bills. Those ideas flash in your mind every now and then, but you swat them away like pesky flies on a hot summer day. I used to treat my dreams and ideas like this. I’d even ridicule myself for even believing in them once upon a time. I went on warring with myself like this for years.
One day, I asked God to take my silly dreams away and let me be an ordinary person. Part of the reason why I wanted to let my dreams and hopes die was because I was afraid to go after them and I was afraid of what people would think of me. I was always teased for having big ideas, so I stopped sharing my ideas with people. I’ve always been creative and imaginative so it would hurt my feelings when people would put down my ideas and dreams. Who wants to be laughed at for what they think? However, I am so grateful that God knows best and He knows what’s best for me and you.

It seems as though my dreams and hopes came after me with a vengeance after I prayed that crazy prayer. They would not turn me loose. A still small voice would encourage me to pick up my pen and write to encourage people. I would resist until I had to finally surrender because I couldn’t sleep at night or focus. My dreams became a fire shut up in my soul that had to come out of me. This time of my life reminded me of a church song the old mothers used to sing: “It feels like fire shut up in my bones. Like Jeremiah it won’t leave me alone!”

In all honestly, I didn’t stop running from my dreams until February of 2010 when I threw up my hands and surrendered to God’s will for my life. Once I did that, things fell into place allowing me to use my God-given talents to encourage and inspire people. Although I’m still growing and learning, I feel so much better and more fulfilled knowing that I am living my dreams and using God’s gifts to help others. This blog is my way of doing this, but look out because there’s so much more to come. I’m going to take that fire that was consuming me and set this world on fire by using my gifts!

I encourage everyone reading this article to stop fighting and resisting your dreams. God gave them to you because only you can bring them to past–no one else can! To hell with what other people think of those lofty dreams and high hopes you possess. Don’t take those dreams to the grave, live your dreams. Go after your dreams like they stole your last can of Spam during the middle of the month and you won’t be getting any more money until the end of the month! It’s that serious. That is the only way you’ll be able to sleep at night. Your dream, idea or invention could change the world. Don’t shortchange us by playing small. Dream Big!

This song by Yolanda Adams really helped me to get through some challenging times when I doubted myself and my dreams. Let it serve as a source of encouragement for you, too.

Be blessed!


P.S.- Remember, everything has beauty including YOU. It just takes a true D.I.V.A to see it!





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  1. LaShaunda Hoffman on August 23, 2010 at 11:14 am

    Shalene, I love that song. It always makes me cry and it is so encouraging.

    I gave up on one of my dreams. I wanted to be a pastry chef. I loved baking and that’s what I wanted to do after school. I went into the navy instead and placed the dream in the back of my heart.

    My sister started going to school to be a chef and the dream crept out of its hiding place and has been tugging at me. So I’ve decided to try my hand at cake decorating and go from there. I’m taking a class in September. I’ll let you know what happens.

    I agree with you never give up on your dreams.

    • ShalenaD.I.V.A on August 23, 2010 at 11:32 am

      LaShaunda, I’m so glad that this article ministered to you. I love that Yolanda Adams song since the first time I heard it. She hit the nail right on the head when she described our visions and dreams as being trapped inside of us.

      I’m so proud of you for enrolling in that pastry class becasue that is taking you one step closer to your dreams. I felt relieved and happy when I signed up for a public speaking class in the beginning of the year. It seems like everything thing started happening for me after that. I met you and you helped me to flesh out the idea for this blog and other elements of my platform. Be on the lookout! LOL!

      I want a piece of cake when you bake your first masterpiece!

  2. Karen Stover on August 23, 2010 at 1:50 pm

    That message came right on time. I was just in my prayer closet this morning trying to push a vision of a chapter in a book I know that God has put in me to write out of my mind asking God to remove these thoughts because they are just not going to happen and not because I didn’t believe in him. It was because I didn’t believe in me. I hear all the time I am created in his image and I am wonderfully made but it still scares me a little when I think about it all. So instead of running towards the dream I run the opposite direction. Then I have the nerve to sit and complain when things are not going the way they were suppose to. Thank you for sharing that and being honest about why you were praying that silly prayer.(lol) It help me to be honest with myself. To face my fear and understand that God did not give me the spirit of fear but of love, the love to do what he created me to do, of Power the power to do all things thru Christ who strengthens me and a Sound Mind, sound to know that what is in me will eventually come out no matter what anyone thinks. Again Thank you for finally surrendering.

    • ShalenaD.I.V.A on August 23, 2010 at 2:15 pm

      Praise God, Karen! I am so happy that this article resonated with you. You have to get those gifts, stories, and talents out of you! Don’t let those dreams die. All things work together and will work out. You just have to answer when you’re called. Life will be so much sweeter and more fulfilling when you use those gifts for his glory. When are you going to write a piece for the blog?

    • ShalenaD.I.V.A on August 28, 2010 at 11:03 am

      Karen, you can do whatever it is God has placed in your heart. Embrace the dreama nd surrender. That is the only way to behappy and fulfilled. When are you going to write for the blog?

  3. Charlene on August 24, 2010 at 1:56 pm


    Your are such a blessing, I fight each day that I awake with my mind as well as the enemy. My dreams is to become a nurse one day but I also would love to be in the class room. So now when I am asked about my dreams and goals, I say, I am going to be a Teacher and then a Nurse, because..Who says that I can’t do both! I serve a True and Living God who says I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me.

    Shalene, keep letting Him use you and thank you.

    • ShalenaD.I.V.A on August 28, 2010 at 11:01 am

      Charlene, thanks for the comment! I’m glad that this post resonated with you. I truly believe that we can live our dreams. Be on the lookout for some encouragement regarding becoming a nurse on this blog. Thanks for the support!

  4. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 10:38 am

    I thank God for knowing what’s best for me and never giving up on me. I’m now beginning to see that He has a special work for me that only I can do. I’m so glad God never gave up on me.

  5. Gene Steele via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 10:49 am

    YES! My situation is a little different because I started to live my dream & 2 years into it the rug got snatched out from under me. I fought against everything to save my dream & my life simultaneously! I went though dark days & lonely nights praying that I wouldn’t lose everything I’ve worked so hard for. I’m still in this struggle but Thank God Almighty I see the light that’s showing me the way!

    Shalena if u wanna know my story IM me & I’ll let u in on a story of devastation into glory! I laugh for a reason! I’m not crazy, I’m happy! For in the midst of the storm I’m shining!!!

  6. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 10:58 am

    @Gene, I’d love to hear your story. Thank you for sharing. I really mean it! I have an offer for you that I think you’ll like. I’ll announce in a few weeks, ok?

  7. Gene Steele via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:01 am

    I believe in u Shalena! Its ok whatever u have in store!

  8. Antwoine Halmon via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:02 am

    yeah i had a dream and the flashes still come thru my mind every now and then but what i do now still gives me joy cause im able to help ppl and in the end thats all that counts

  9. Anya Nicole Lindsey via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:06 am

    I have thought about giving up several times due to circustances beyond my control. I may walk away from my dreams…for a few but then I remind myself that I’ve come too far in my to be ordinary…So I continue on my journey because I know God has a plan for me! A plan bigger than anything I could ever imagine!

  10. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:13 am

    @Anya, yessss!!!! We have come too far to be ordinary! You are sooo right! But you’re right.. you have to take a step back at times to regroup. I’m so glad you never gave up on your dreams because you have so much to offer to the world. I believe in you and I know you’ll go far. The lessons you’re learning along the way are preparing you for the road ahead. Girl, you got this!

  11. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:15 am

    @Gene– You said you trust me, so I don’t want to hear any whining when I approach you, ok?

  12. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:16 am

    @Antwoine—I still think you shouldn’t give up on that dream. You may be going through a detour for now that will eventually prepare you for the big dream. Keep your head up and don’t give up! You’ll be just fine!

  13. Alicia Williams via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:30 am

    Ok i have read this a few times & this sounds like i could’ve wrote this……wow……this is so my story!!!! Sometimes you feel like it’s easier to sweep your dreams under the rug & keep living. Thnx this is encouragement for me & yet more confirmation

  14. Sharon McGlone via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:31 am

    Giving up is the devils way of saying he beat you last time he was defeated!!!! so let your dreams take flight! Knowing that God is always by your side!!!

  15. Sharon McGlone via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:34 am

    He will continue to be deafeated as long as you continue to claim it to be so!!! 🙂

  16. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 11:43 am

    @Sharon—I think you’re right. We can’t give up, no matter what!

  17. Sharon McGlone via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 12:14 pm

    @Shalena always if we give up what was the of his only begotten son dying for our sins! everyday we strive for perfection and it will never be an easy task. beside if it was would we be grateful? i can honestly say i wouldn’t know how to! when you know better you do better!

  18. Sharon McGlone via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 12:18 pm

    That is a point no one can contend with! things that make you go hmmmmmmmm!!! 🙂

  19. Gene Steele via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 3:02 pm

    @Shalena, oh Good Lord what did I commit to???

  20. MsDebbie MsEdmonson Boyd via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 4:20 pm

    Yes.And I Believe you are Never To Old When God is Telling You I Still Got Something For You To Do!

  21. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 4:29 pm

    @MsDeb—You are absolutely right! You are never too old. Kernel Sanders was 52 when he started KFC.

  22. MsDebbie MsEdmonson Boyd via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 4:49 pm

    Lol. And Iam One year Older. Thank God I don’t Look it. Heyyy.:-)

  23. Christinaalwaysbrown Becker via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 7:08 pm

    it happens, sometimes it feels as if you have so much going on in your personal life…that there’s no way possible you can pursue your dreams….but if God is in it he will help make a way somehow…

  24. www.shalenadiva.com via Facebook on May 3, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    @Christine– you’re right. You will find the way or God will clear yur schedule. There are many stories out there of people who were laid off and soon after pursued their dreams, what they really wanted to do. It’s funny how life takes its twists and turns.

  25. Give Thnaks to The Divine. Having my 7 children of which 5 are alive, they helped to further and strengthen my creative and dream spark. I’m working on them as I speak!

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